Just came home to find Chloe helping with the dishes. It’s so nice to get some help around here.
Our wedding day was the best day of my life. The planning, the months, weeks and days leading up to it, the preparations, the celebrations and being surrounded by our closest friends and family will always be some of my best memories.
I would do it all again, almost exactly the same since it turned out even better than we imagined, but along the way I learned a few things that I’m passing on to other brides-to-be. Enjoy your day, hopefully you’ll only have one! And may yours be a spectacularly wonderful and memorable as ours.
No matter how flawlessly or far ahead you plan, something will go wrong.
I had over a year to plan our wedding, so I was sure our “hitching” would go off without a hitch. See what I did there? ;) Nonetheless, things that went wrong and were simply out of our control. Since our wedding was outdoors on our farm, tables, chairs, a dance floor… literally everything, had to be delivered. We had fantasies of setting up on Friday morning after deliveries, then kicking back on the porch, sipping wine as we patted ourselves on the back for a job well done and waited for everyone to arrive for the rehearsal. Suckers! The deliveries were late, late, late, and had us in a frenzy getting things set up. And while I did shower for the record, I still had sweat dripping down my back from the running around as I did my practice strut down the aisle.
Take a step back.
Our matron of honor gave us some priceless wedding day advice. She recommended that at some point in the night, my groom and I slip away by ourselves and watch the celebrations going on without us. It was already an emotional day filled with so much anxiety, love and excitement, but seeing our dearest fri =ends and family – all of our favorite people in the world – together dancing, laughing and celebrating, was a sight that took our breath away. My grandma getting a drink with a former coworker, my groom’s brother doing the twist with one of our bridesmaids, and my second grade teacher chatting with our best man. They’re all such great memories that we’ll always cherish, and I’m so thankful we took a moment to take it all in.
If you hire a bartender, enforce an empty bottle check station.
Our bartenders rubbed us the wrong way. They were late and that’s really all there was, but they through around their attitudes, and we’re highly suspicious that they stole bottles from us at the end of the night. But you know what? We didn’t count the empty bottles before they left, nor keep track of any that went out with the trash bags, so there’s nothing we could do. Frankly, we were a bit busy basking in our wedding bliss and dancing our faces off to be worried about some missing Crown, but it left a bad taste in our mouth from the experience, and we will not hire them again. So take a good inventory of what you have at the beginning, and ask a friend to check in with them mid-way, and again as they are leaving to make sure everything’s accounted for.
Our wedding was such a perfect day – truly the best day of our lives, and we were so happy being surrounded by our dearest friends and family who came from all over the country to support and celebrate with us. Since the wedding ceremony and reception were both held on my family’s farm in Texas, it was surreal to be exchanging vows in the same spot I learned to fly a kite, made mud pies, and climb trees.
I wanted to let the bridesmaids choose their own dresses. I wanted everyone to have something that they were comfortable in, and and style that best flattered everyone’s figures. So, I created a color palette and Pinterest board of example styles, and they came together beautifully. From a soft blush to mint, sea foam green and dusty rose, the most fabulous women in my life finished off their look with cowboy boots – we would have had it no other way in Texas!
Please note our precious flower girl’s darling boots. Cutest li’l things I’ve ever seen…
That gorgeous arch than hung over us as we exchanged our vows was the combined handy work of my husband, dad and brother, who chose the perfect pecan branches and secured them with rope at the top. We adorned it with tulle and flowers, and it turned out more beautiful and romantic than I could have imagined.
One of the best parts of our wedding planning process was creating a ceremony that was both meaningful to us and true to our personalities. We selected two readings, both of which are below.
Adapted from Union, by Robert Fulghum
You’ve known each other from the very first glance to this moment today of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of “Yes,” to this moment of “I do,” you’ve been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married,” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you’re about to make are a way of saying to one another: “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before today you’ve been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a new threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
Because after today you’ll be saying to the world: ”This is my husband. This is my wife.”